I want to thank all of you ers...
As I'm sure some of you know, I've been at college the past few months, and it's been really hard on me.
There's a lot of stress and a lot of tormenting going on, and I'm not fitting in well there at all. Living in the dormitory may be one of the worst ideas I've ever had, but I'm there and I'm stuck for now.
Because of this, I've been spending a lot more time in my room on the MacBook, and I've been frequenting iLounge a lot more than usual, because it's one of the few familiar places I have left while I'm away.
I don't have a lot of friends at school, and I only get to be home on the weekends, but it's nice to know that there's a place I can go with people I know at any time of the day.
So I want to thank everyone on iLounge for helping me make this transition.
I know it sounds kinda pathetic, but it's definitely appreciated on my end. It's a big, scary leap for me, and it's nice to have at least something familiar there.
So again, thank you all, very much.
# 1 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Awwwww, we love you Freddy.
# 2 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Anything new needs a lot of adjusting to Freddy :) chin up!
# 3 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Ah, I worry about all u kids... in the middle of a big campus and u can't find friends?
Even if yer introvert, surely the chess club, the electronics club, the book club....
If yer stuck in your room all the time, yer really missing an important feature of a U.S. university, GET INVOLVED. So take less units, take 5 years instead of 4... there is no shame... unless your parents need u to graduate a.s.a.p. in order to help with the rent.
Did u read the AmaginDM's thread? One-dimensional, head-over-books all the time is not what employers are looking for... Don't make the mistake he made.
# 4 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Freddy,
Sometimes moving away from home is hard and any little bit of familiarity is a comfort. Be it the phone call home or a letter from someone special. The internet has added a new way of keeping in touch, so if iLounge forums serves as a little bit of 'normality' then it's good to know you can log in to have a gripe or feel amongst 'friendly faces'.
But while we see the forums as a cyber community there is nothing to beat getting to know people face to face - I would guess that many others at your college also feel lonely. A whole year started the same time as you?
And any 'tormenting' going on is probably from people feeling worse than you, who rely on bravado and 'bullying' to compensate for their insecurities.
As bobb-mini says get involved with others and your time at college will seem all the better for it. I had plenty of times in my past when I thought "I can't do this" but I knuckled down and bit the bullet and made good friends and had a blast.
Bob at 2007-11-15 17:58:37 >
# 5 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
I'd like to just reiterate that the bob's have it right.
It can be tough starting out in college. I know I didn't feel like I had any friends for the first few weeks. But, it will be a LONG 4 years if you don't go outside of your comfort zone and make some friends. College is supposed to be about just that, learning to go outside of your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to ask your roommates to go out and get a bite to eat, ask your classmates if they want to study, etc.
Enjoy college, because it's a period of your life you'll never be able to relive!
# 6 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Freddy, I would also suggest looking into what clubs or other programs you can participate in and check into getting into a work program (great way to meet other people and make friends) even if it is working at the Uni for an hour or two.
Try starting conversations with people in the classes your taking by asking them questions about the work to start and them introducing yourself and ask them their name. This is another way to meet people even if you have to make like your having trouble fully understanding the lesson.
# 7 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Try starting conversations with people in the classes your taking by asking them questions about the work to start and them introducing yourself and ask them their name. This is another way to meet people even if you have to make like your having trouble fully understanding the lesson.
Good way to meet girls, too... :eek:
Actually, I use this approach all the time (so it does work). I have yet to meet a person that doesn't enjoy talking about themselves, and if you're actually interested in what they're talking about, they definitely take to you quickly.
# 8 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
You're Welcome Freddy. Hang in there buddy.
baggss at 2007-11-15 18:02:41 >
# 9 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
If it's anything like people here living on campus, most of them are arses. From my experience.
However, there are the few good ones, who you'll get along with and you'll have the best time of your life.
Adam at 2007-11-15 18:03:38 >
# 10 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
If you spend so much time with your MacBook, find the Mac club. I know a lot of schools have them. It's a starting point, anyway.
# 11 Re: I want to thank all of you ers...
Sorry to hear you're having a hard time adjusting to life there Freddy. If you can, do as others have suggested, seek out girls, um I mean clubs of some sort. Often though, girls can be better friends for you, as they don't have to act all cool and be big tough guys, which 9.9/10 they're not anyway.
Try to find something small to begin with, and one friend turns into another, into another, and so you get the idea.
